Today was a busy day at Science World and taking turns was an ongoing issue. Jack really enjoys doing the wheelchair race. On several occasions, he stood patiently waiting his turn and other kids would run over and jump on the wheelchairs when it was his turn. I saw his little face, he didn't want to say anything and just looked at me for help. As I stood there waiting with him, I struggled with what to do. Especially in cases where parents were nearby and made no move to correct the situation. To me, this is such an awkward position to be in, having to speak to other people's children about waiting their turn when their parents are standing right there. But, if I don't speak up for Jack and I stand there and let child after child go in front of him when he has been waiting patiently, what message am I sending him? I want to show him with my actions and my words that he deserves what he is asking for.
In the end, I did speak to several kids, pointing out that Jack had been waiting and it was his turn and in most cases, the kids let Jack take his turn. Speaking up was hard for me. I avoid confrontation like the plaque and I cringe at the idea of upsetting or annoying people. As a result, I am not that good at standing up for myself. I want Jack and Sarah to be more assertive than I am. Today I realized that sometimes as a parent you have to do things that are uncomfortable for the sake of your kids.
How do you deal with turn taking when out in public?
Have you done anything lately that felt uncomfortable for the sake of your kids?