- I don't clean my house enough
- My kitchen floor is dirty
- I don't floss my kids' teeth
- I am not patient enough when I am trying to get the kids out of the house in the morning
- I bribe my kids with cookies and chocolate
- I do too much for my kids
- I often can't find the Sarah's library book on library day and I curse about it
- Sometimes we eat meals while watching t.v.
- Some mornings Jack doesn't brush his teeth
- I don't take my kids to the public library enough
- Jack is only in swimming lessons right now, no other programs
- I can never to do pick ups or drop off for school
I could go on and on. Part of this guilt comes from comparing myself, my family, my kids to others. It is a bad habit, but it is such a difficult one to kick. It is easy to look around and see another mother who has it more together than me. It may be the fresh kleenex she can whisk from her pocket, at a moments notice. While I madly dig to the bottom of my bag and produce a used dry wipe and try to pass it off as a kleenex. Or it could be the glamorous mom who is off to yoga at 8:00 p.m. while I sit on the couch eating bon bons and pinning pins to my pinterest boards that I will probably never try.
Francesca Kaplan Grossman's article, "Jealousy, Judgement and Motherhood" got me thinking about the whole issue of feeling inadequate. It seems to me, we are all incredibly hard on ourselves. We need to give ourselves a break. We need to give each other a break. Because in the end, we are doing the best we can. We are human, not super human. As a result, we get tired. We get frustrated. We get sad. We get hungry. We get cold. And these things can affect my feelings and actions at any given moment.
So I want to learn to be a little easier on myself this year. Won't you join me?
|A beautiful Saturday with my family can whisk much of that guilt away.|